When I was in my mid twenties, I went through a giant transition in my life. A long-term relationship ended, I was forced to move from my home of several years, and I became dissatisfied in my work. I also found myself lacking in friends and community and ultimately pretty isolated. I remember waking up in the morning during that time feeling like I had taken that first plunge on a roller coaster. I would wake up and feel my stomach drop… I have never felt so much fear!
Many aspects of my life seemed to disappear overnight and I found myself questioning everything about myself and my world. I looked for solace by returning to practices I had let slide over the years, like playing music, meditation and writing. These helped a lot, but I knew I needed something more.
I craved some kind of deeper intimacy and community, but didn’t know where to find it. I felt so scared during that time, but it would turn out to be one of the most transformational periods of my life.
It was this experience that led me to my own first encounter with therapy. Having spent years of my younger life studying spiritual teachings and self-help methodologies, I didn’t think psychotherapy could offer any perspective than I hadn’t tried.
I was so wrong!
My entire life was blown open in my first sessions with my therapist. Over many months, therapy revealed to me deeper and more complex aspects of my being and the ways that I related to others. I made contact with vulnerable and wounded parts of me that desperately needed attention.
I felt so nourished by the process of therapy that I decided I never wanted to stop! I wanted to spread this kind of experience to other people. In a way I think I always knew that helping people work through their difficulties and find deeper meaning in their lives was what I was meant to do, but had not yet found a way to make this a reality.
My initial therapy experience showed me there was so much more to learn and a way that I could make this my career and life’s work.
From that point on, I became deeply immersed in personal and interpersonal work, including men’s groups and other groups, individual therapy, and a deep inner exploration through the process of graduate school. I strongly believe that my experience with my own therapy is one of my greatest gifts in working with others. I love this process from both sides and really want to help you find what you are looking for.
When I look back on that period of suffering and struggle I am actually grateful that it happened, because it launched me into a huge process of growth and discovery… There was a part of me that knew that I had no choice but to evolve and grow as a person.
Without that period of turmoil, I would not be writing this to you!