Do you long for more social connections but find it difficult to be yourself when you are around people?
Maybe you leave social situations to try to “figure out” what the problem is when you are by yourself and you can think clearly.
Or you pressure yourself to stay with the group, trying not to stand out and fearing people will know how uncomfortable you feel. Then later you feel ashamed that you weren’t able to push through the anxiety or express yourself more.
I have dedicated my life to transforming social anxiety, both in myself and others. When I was in my teens and early twenties I felt a lot of shame because I would get anxious and freeze when I was in groups of people. I often felt like I couldn’t be myself when people were around. It was so frustrating!
Over time I learned how to be myself without feeling pressure be a certain way or to impress others. Now I feel completely comfortable, even when I’m presenting in front of large groups. Now I actually forget that I ever felt anxious around people. Because I know what social anxiety is like, am committed to helping people overcome it. I want everyone to feel like they belong with other people.
There are many different experiments we can try to reveal what is happening in your specific social anxiety. You can learn mastery over your anxiety and find the friendships and belonging that you need. This is about developing a more spontaneous and authentic way of being, and learning not to be captive to your anxiety.